Challenge #17: Who's Affecting Your . . . | Click To Read More . . .

Hi!  I'm Trina Gunzel and welcome to your next challenge!

 

Today your challenge is to make a list of all the people in your life you are currently feeling like you are being an effect of.  I want you to take your time and include them all, then review your list and notice how you feel each time you are being an effect of them.  Make a decision to try to change 1 relationship on your list from feeling like an effect to being cause over it.

 

Now, this is a really important part in your success journey because it is hard to create consistent prograss and patterns for success if you are being pulled down by negative or hurtful people in your life.

 

If someone is always criticizing you, belittling you, hurting your feelings, or making you sad or upset, it is going to be very hard for you to make reliable gains.

 

However, if you can spot who is making you feel that way and then realize they must have some pretty serious things going on in their life if they are lashing out at you that way, you can have compassion for them, while helping yourself feel empowered and have some boundaries.

 

Just noticing the root cause of your feeling helps.

 

Some suggestions to be cause instead of effect in the relationship may be:

 

You could pray for them,

You could  listen to them and acknowledge them, but not take on their pain and behavior.

You could let them know that their communication is hurting you and you want the relationship to work better.

 

If you have to see them, have a time limit that works for you (an hour visit or less may be best),

Keep short but positive communication focused on only good things,

Share your struggles, too.  If you meet people where they are at, then you are more relateable to them.

 

So again, the challenge is make a list of all the people in your life you are currently feeling like you are being an effect of.  Review your list and notice how you feel each time you are being an effect of them.  Make a decision to try to change 1 relationship on your list from feeling like you're being an effect of it, to being a positive cause over it.

 

You will be strengthened from doing this.  If it works well for you, consider using this strategy to improve other relationships as well.

 

Great job!  You are making huge progress in your life and every success counts!

 

We look forward to working with you again tomorrow!  See you on the next challenge!